It’s happened to all of us. We have this overwhelming feeling that we have been here before, but we can’t really put our finger on it. This is deja vu, and it’s intangible. However, there are times when we can identify what is triggering a memory. A song comes on the radio that reminds us of past love. Someone is wearing the same perfume or cologne as someone we used to share life with. A commercial or a movie comes on the television that makes us reminisce about family time growing up. We drive by a landmark or place that brings us back to a vacation that we went on earlier in life. These are all tangible things. These are all distractions.
I am not writing this to tell you that having memories is bad or that being appreciative of your past is forbidden. However, you should never be so enveloped and emotionally invested in the past that it hinders your gratefulness for the present or your enthusiasm for the future. You are where you are for a reason. However difficult life is right now, it’s making you stronger and more wise!
You need to be able to identify what nostalgia is in your life, and then make sure to control the emotions that it brings to you. Be able to limit yourself to a few moments of reminiscing and then get back to the present, while focusing on the future. If you allow yourself to live in the past too long, then you will inevitably be setting yourself up for failure and you will never reach your fullest potential.